Take a hint
there are always people we encounter where we think, if given the chance, we'd make different sartorial choices for them. but they might be perfectly passionate about their decisions. and i might be clueless about my own fashion foibles. always easier for me to see others somewhat more clearly than myself, but then there are also little signs that i could perhaps pay attention to, pointing out when something is and is not compatible with me, my style, my life, my body, etc.
where is the line between giving it "the old college try" and trying too hard? how do you know when you've crossed it?