Matchy matchy


i often, too too often, notice beautiful, well-groomed and styled women partnered up with unkempt or sartorially disinterested companions. i would never suggest that one’s spouse or partner be maintained like an accessory, but i do find the discrepancy, the inequality of effort to be disconcerting, and i usually interpret it as the woman settling a bit.

do you and your significant others typically have compatible style? what about simply equal levels of investment in appearance? is that important to you?

5 comments:

martha said...

i have seen what you are talking about - women dressed up with guys who look like they must be brothers instead of dates since they are dressed like slobs. the percentage of men who make an effort is so so so tiny (from what i can tell), to those that do not, or think that a hat on backwards is a fashion statement.

is fashion compatibility important to me? i would say it's an ideal.

anais said...

i have dated fellows who were interested in fashion, well-groomed and well-dressed, and i don't know -- i have found that fashion is not something i need to share with a partner. it is something i do like to share with my girlfriends, though.

i kind of like a scruffy jeans and t-shirt guy personally. i find it sexy in men, and in women, in fact, depending on her character and personality.

editor said...

anais - something to be said for "opposites attract" i suppose. :)

Iheartfashion said...

I may be part of an "unmatched" pair myself, my husband being better dressed and more dressed up than me 90% of the time...I'm working on it though. And I do like being with a man who cares how he looks (without being absurdly vain).

Stylefinder (Editor) said...

My guy really has a strong sense of personal style, but he often ends up on the scruffy side of things, intentionally. But he and I both like him that way. I on the other hand never look scruffy - I'd rather dress up than down. Usually when he sees what I'm wearing he'll feel like he should be more dressed up. I think it bothers him more than it bothers me.

Another somewhat related thing - I suppose I have a more mature style and sensibility for my age. My bf describes this as "dressing like a stylish 40-something". I like to play with volume and silhouette, and vintage clothing...

I disagree at his choice of words, but think that he equates youthful style with showing skin and wearing body-conscious clothing. Basically looking like all the other 20-something girls out there in tunics, leggings and ballet flats.

Funny how he considers himself to be quite a sylish guy (and he is!) but when it comes to an appreciation of cutting-edge trends, he can't appreciate the aesthetic. he wants boobs and hips and legs. Typical guy - lol