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i was (who'm i kidding, make that am) considering a new necklace but then i consider that i have a favorite heavy glass bead necklace that gets more wear than any of my other 3 necklaces. if i have one that i love, why would i get another? it's not the cost that stops me, just an interest in self-editing/censoring. stuff can pile up without my even noticing it, so i'm trying to notice. i could love the new necklace for a week, a month or a few years, and then it's over. (or not - but there is no way to know for sure, and the fact of the matter is, i have a necklace that is perfect. why buy another.)

my explanation for multiples in the past has been lust/love/greed/"need" and/or lack of imagination.

how do you distinguish between a reasonable amount and too much?

13 comments:

Michelle said...

How about "amassing a collection?" That's what I tell myself anyway, regarding jewelry (earrings mostly). I do find it nice to have different options for different outfits, moods, etc. I tend to cycle certain items in and out of current wear.

Iheartfashion said...

You're GOOD if you can limit yourself to just one necklace! I can always justify another accessory because nothing I own will look good with everything, so it's nice to have a bit of variety.

editor said...

michelle, iheartfashion - you both, interestingly, have slightly different approaches (same result). i think my interest in necklaces is too sporadic, so i don't trust that it will warrant enough use of the necklace. also, i went nuts for some silly necklace a few years ago and now i totally don't like it, never wear it. this one is ... similarly silly (similar in that it's silly, not serious jewelry, not similar in the design or anything).

Candid Cool said...

i noticed one day when i was going through my closet that i amassed quite a collection of pintucked/tuxedo pleated shirts w/o realizing it. and i notice i'm always drawn to them.

white shirts & ts u cant really have TOO too many because they dont last "forever."

but it is a bit disgusting that i've purchased several bags in a short amount of time compared to when i was a student & i still am eyeing 2 more

i tell myself one day i wont have any time to shop but i'll have plently of clothes from my "previous shopping life" and i work hard, dont get to take vacations, so i deserve it.

GenX Theorist said...

Editor, have you read the Point of View in the latest Vogue (the one with Jennifer Connelly on the cover)? I loved that article - something in Vogue about fashion sustainability and moderation!

I was amazed.

I struggle constantly with this issue and I think it's because fashion, like any art, requires ongoing process and build-up. There are always new, interesting, beautiful ideas...the danger with fashion is they manifest as season buys. I love seeing everything new, but I hate feeling that consumer craze - and it's almost like a meditative practice to focus on loving the few distinct things I can buy and build on. Somewhere in there lies my 'style' though I'm still working through that.

My greatest guide is when I come across a really supurb article (like the point of view, or, there was one on Jane Birkin a while back that was really nice) that speaks a little more to taking the time to revere our few, treasured things.

I've relegated myself to wanting and buying a few things each season. I will never get away from that. Like, for instance, I am already taken with the wild bright flower thing going on for spring and am looking forward to it. But...I try also to think of how that will synergize with my wardrobe as it is now, if that makes sense.

editor said...

candid cool - you don't mind have multiples all at once? i mean having many tees, etc. instead of frequently replacing them when they're done. it's interesting that i choose to wait to replace, when, other than space, there isn't any difference i suppose. the same amount is purchased, in the long run.

genxtheorist - no, i haven't seen the new US vogue. i usually take my time buying it, and then it's only about every other month typically, because i subscribe to australian vogue and a hefty amout carries over from US vogue, so sometimes the issues are redundant.
i also have a very hard time seeing and coveting A LOT, and then separating that lust/love from just what i personally want/need. there is plenty of overlap, of course.

Anonymous said...

i acquire new necklaces mostly out of pure lust.

i spent a few years making my own and getting quite good at it, but it still did not quench my desire to purchase the work of others (assuming i could not make it myself).

i became a more discriminating purchaser since i could make alot of them myself...but still found myself drawn to the same pieces before i learned out to bead.

Lust clearly can not be entirely extinguished even over time when your taste changes perhaps, because you never forget how you once felt over an item.
signed, me

Gervy said...

Fantastic question, editor.
I don't know how to answer it... I feel like I never have enough (the fashion industry is designed to make me think this), but compared to many people I suppose I have a ridiculous amount of stuff. Will have to search out that Vogue article about fashion sustainability.

Iheartfashion said...

genX theorist: I just read that Vogue article on my train ride today, and was shocked to see it there. I loved the woman's style: multiple navy blazers in a classic cut, dark denim, striped tees. It also made me think of this blog!

editor said...

oh well, now i have no choice - i will have to buy a copy of vogue first thing tomorrow.

GenX Theorist said...

Hi iheart - that's cool that you just read that article too. Wasn't it refreshing? I also loved the woman from Chicago on her rooftop garden in her Prada fuzz skirt. :)

landis smithers said...

i think the prada fuzz skirt kind of cut into her premise of classics and sustainability. that ain't no navy blazer.

as for amassing, it's not just fashion, it's human nature. we hoard in fear of loss, or of change, or of self-worth, or sometimes just in the simple pursuit and acquisition of beauty.

personally, i am slowly moving more versatile/lasting. . . but probably more because my investment level is going up and there's more to lose.

however, if it's a "piece" and you love it. . .

editor said...

i just finished reading the piece. i don't know...vogue irks me quite often. the pic landis mentioned, it's of a woman who isn't swearing by navy blazers (that's a different woman) but one who does actually mention her commitment to avoiding "dry clean only" items, yet her entire ensemble surely requires such treatment. then, ms. navy blazers has 10 pairs of identical jeans. i would dare say that if she has 6 navy blazers, she might as well just have 3, and then buy 2 red ones if she'd like. 6 is overkill. she's actually my idea of someone on the "more more more" track they claim she's reformed from: "a stack or two" of tees and sweaters. well, i whole-heartedly agreed with the title, "why less is more" but the rest was not what it could have been. the 2 women, their examples, take it in 2 different directions. the first one, the stylist, she has streamlined her style. that is a "less is more" example, even if it's just less variety. then the other one is supposed to be about environmental conscience, but her reasoning that she would buy stella mccartney clothing because she likes the designer's beliefs...unless she's buying the stuff from the adidas range, i'm pretty sure 99% of her stella items have to be dry cleaned.
sorry, i think i got off on the wrong foot with this issue early on. and when i got to the article and they made it sound like a trend "'mass consumerism isn't fun anymore'" (which they have to do so that they can reverse it, and soon, by saying that it IS suddenly fun again to load up), well, i might have been biased by then.
maybe things will improve with the remaining 204 pages.
but i hope they don't refer to a 35 (or is it a 40?) clemence birkin with gold hardware as a "serviceable bag" again. it's a gorgeous, luxurious bag and a great invesment IF a person has a long attention span. developing a longer fashion attention span - now that would make a great article on "less is more" because you can't be sustained by less if you crave more. and you're not bad for craving or needing more. just finding a realistic balance so that people can create their own contentment... but vogue is about creating need for something new at least once a month.