Q&A


1. would you rather a giftcard, for a large amount, to a store you do not particularly care for, or a giftcard, for a small amount, to a store you adore?

2. would you rather get as a gift an item you wanted (and essentially chose, through incessant hinting), or one that totally surprises you, that you had not previously considered?

3. if you knew a friend wanted X very badly, but you thought it did not suit them, would you still buy it for them as a gift?

4. what is your protocol with gift disappointment? A. honesty, B. stealth return/exchange, or C. bury it in a drawer for all eternity.

5. if you gave someone a disappointing gift, which would be your preference for them? (see #4 for choices)

6. when buying a gift, you receive a 'free gift with purchase,' which A. goes along with purchase to the intended giftee, B. goes to the gifter (you) as a perk.

7. the gift-giving season is A. stressful, B. a fun, guilt-free excuse to shop.

8. you start your shopping for this season A. months in advance, B. at the last minute, or C. ______.

9 comments:

Jessica said...

1. would you rather a giftcard, for a large amount, to a store you do not particularly care for, or a giftcard, for a small amount, to a store you adore?

I'd rather have a gift card for the store I adore. If it was for the store I didn't like, I'd feel pressured to purchase something that I'm simply not in love with. Additionally, if I rec'd a gift card for the store I loved, it shows that the person who purchased it for me knows my personality and preferences.

2. would you rather get as a gift an item you wanted (and essentially chose, through incessant hinting), or one that totally surprises you, that you had not previously considered?

I'd rather have a gift that I hinted heavily about. It's still a surprise that I really did receive it!

3. if you knew a friend wanted X very badly, but you thought it did not suit them, would you still buy it for them as a gift?

No. As much as I'd prefer what I was hinting at for myself, I still purchase the gift I find most appropriate for a friend regardless of what s/he is dropping hints for. Hypocritical, huh?

4. what is your protocol with gift disappointment? A. honesty, B. stealth return/exchange, or C. bury it in a drawer for all eternity.

It depends who gave it to me. If it's a distant relative, I'll do the stealth return. If it's my parents, brother or boyfriend, I know they would all prefer that I'm honest and I go with them to exchange it for something that suits me well.

5. if you gave someone a disappointing gift, which would be your preference for them? (see #4 for choices)

I'd want them to thank me for the item, but lie and tell me it doesn't fit or the color isn't quite right. Then we can go shopping together for something else!

6. when buying a gift, you receive a 'free gift with purchase,' which A. goes along with purchase to the intended giftee, B. goes to the gifter (you) as a perk.

It's my reward for braving the holiday crowds!

7. the gift-giving season is A. stressful, B. a fun, guilt-free excuse to shop.

B!

8. you start your shopping for this season A. months in advance, B. at the last minute, or C. ______.

I began shopping in October.

Anonymous said...

1. would you rather a giftcard, for a large amount, to a store you do not particularly care for, or a giftcard, for a small amount, to a store you adore?

I would prefer a gift card in a smaller amount for a store that I adore, as I know that I will find something there that will be just perfect. There are reasons that I don’t shop at particular stores, so receiving a large gift certificate for one of them would honestly, be useless.

2. would you rather get as a gift an item you wanted (and essentially chose, through incessant hinting), or one that totally surprises you, that you had not previously considered?

This is a funny one for me. My parents raised me and my siblings with gift list “It’s late October, could you email me your Christmas list?”, so I’m very programmed for spec-ing out gift ideas. That being said, it absolutely tickles me when someone picks out a thoughtful gift that surprises me and I had not previously considered!

3. if you knew a friend wanted X very badly, but you thought it did not suit them, would you still buy it for them as a gift?

Gifts are given to people because you either know for a fact ro have a pretty good idea that the giftee would in fact like that gift. It’s not up to the gifter to pass judgement on the suitability of the gift requested by the giftee. That being said, I would never ever purchase a plastic sofa cover for anyone, if you know what I mean!

4. what is your protocol with gift disappointment? A. honesty, B. stealth return/exchange, or C. bury it in a drawer for all eternity.

Tactful honesty.

5. if you gave someone a disappointing gift, which would be your preference for them? (see #4 for choices)

Tactful honesty.

6. when buying a gift, you receive a 'free gift with purchase,' which A. goes along with purchase to the intended giftee, B. goes to the gifter (you) as a perk.

It depends on the free gift. If it’s suitable for the giftee, then it goes to the giftee. If it’s suitable for me, it goes to me. If it’s not suitable for anyone, I don’t accept it.

7. the gift-giving season is A. stressful, B. a fun, guilt-free excuse to shop.

I don’t find Christmas time stressful at all. I enjoy shopping for others, honestly, a lot more than shopping for myself. I spread out my shopping, and tend to do most of it as far away from a mall as possible, which makes it enjoyable.

8. you start your shopping for this season A. months in advance, B. at the last minute, or C. ______.

I start my shopping somewhere between months in advance and at the last minute.

xo

sabina

Candid Cool said...

1. small amount for store i adore
2. get what i want :)
3. if it wasnt too terribly expensive, maybe
4. C) but i think this time around I'll be a B)
5. (B), i always give gift receipts
6. (A)
7. i dont really do it much, but its fun.
8. (C) when the occassion arises for me to buy someone a gift

jakjak said...

1 - small giftcard for the great store
2 - something I really wanted
3 - Yes, and i'd keep the receipt in case they came to the same conclusion after getting it
4 - stealth return
5 - Honesty so I don't make the same mistake again -my sister put up with 6 years of animal ornaments all because she was too nice to be truthful, (not from me!)
7 - Love the gift-giving so B
8 - I am C always on the lookout for gifts

jakjak said...

Hey I missed # 6
- I always give the free gift with purchase away with the gift it doesn't seem right no to

a. said...

1) the small one for the store i adore. this summer i HAD a giftcard - medium-large - to macy's and it took me forever to use it. ugh.

2) if i end up loving the surprise item, well then definitely that! i've never received exactly what i wanted, and i don't think it could really happen, due to my being both picky AND fickle. ;-)

3) of course! if it makes them happy - that's the point.

4) B if i can, otherwise (no gift receipt?) C. though if the topic comes up i will tell them. (but not at the moment of gift-giving - at that time i'm all about utter thankfulness, cos it's the thought that counts).

5) B.

6) i'd probably give it to them, even if i wanted it - i'd feel somehow dishonest otherwise.

7) A. i worry too much about getting the right gift.

8) in-between, closer to last-minute. though, i'm not christian, and i've slowly transitioned out of giving christmas gifts (i used to just cos everyone else does), because i don't really find it satisfying (giving OR receiving) - it feels like a largely empty gesture, something so expected that all the fun is gone. i much prefer well-thought-out birthday or special-occasion (graduation, new job etc.) gifts.

B.S.A.G. said...

1. If the small gift card is enough to buy something at the store I adore, then I'd welcome it. If I have to chip in my own money along with the card, that would feel like I'd gotten half a gift. If I might find something useful at the store I don't really like - for instance, clothes that fit me but just aren't my usual style - I'd try to keep an open mind and not feel pressured to use up the whole card at once. Or I might use it to buy a future gift for the giver - after all, they like the store enough to get me a card for it.

2. Surprise gifts seem more thoughtful to me. The best ones reflect both the giver's and the recipient's personality and also their relationship with each other: "I saw this and it reminded me of you." I do appreciate gifts that I've specifically asked for, but they're usually utilitarian objects - the "gift" is saving me the trouble/expense of buying it for myself, rather than the actual item. Asking for hints or suggestions is good. Demanding a detailed wish list from everyone is lazy and unimaginative.

3. Probably not - I'd give them something unrelated and more personal, and hope that someone else would get them the thing they asked for.

4. I try to find a use for the gift anyway, and if I can't, I wait an appropriate length of time (whatever that is) and then pass it on - either sell it, donate it or give it to someone else. The only time I feel comfortable returning anything is if I already own something just like it, or to exchange it for a different size.

5. The same. I'd be much more disappointed if the gift were handmade, but I'd still rather see it get used by someone than sit forgotten and unappreciated. I'd rather know someone didn't like my gift than be lied to - and the next year they'd get a gift card.

6. It depends entirely on how much I want the bonus item. I might give it to someone else altogether.

7. I make a lot of my gifts (for those who I know appreciate it), so it's stressful to finish everything in time even though it's enjoyable. If I happen to find something in a store that's perfect for someone, I buy it without guilt - but often I'm also making something for the same person, so I end up giving them both. Then I feel guilty for not giving everyone else an extra gift too.

8. I always mean to start shopping well in advance, but it seldom turns out that way. I don't wait until the very last minute, but I do usually wish I'd started sooner. I worry that if I try to buy gifts throughout the year and save them for the occasion, when the time comes I'll have forgotten I bought them.

Gervy said...

1. Store I adore

2. You do not specify whether it would be a good surprise or a bad surprise so I think I would choose my own.

3. No, I know best.

4. B, where possible. Sometimes friendship termination as well.

5. B.

6. Perk. Better that than the other way - someone once gave me a set of four teeny-tiny "not for individual sale" perfumes as a thank you gift for providing them with accommodation in London. The same woman also gave my husband a bottle of very bad whisky that she'd bought for her brother-in-law. (Her brother-in-law didn't want to see her, so she gave the whisky to my husband as a thank you present.) We have not spoken to her since.

7. A

8. B

Guessgirl96 said...

1. small amount to a store I love

2. I'd rather get the gift I really want

3. No

4. C but I'll wear/use it around the person

5. honesty is best but almost no ones honest about it including myself!

6. B. goes to the gifter (you) as a perk.

7. B. a fun, guilt-free excuse to shop.

8. B. at the last minute