Inside out

in response to tuesday's post, there was a comment on the heartbreakingly pretty haircut pictured, "it only works on a few." that poster's point was that this haircut+linda evangelista = a synergistic effect. "it is the charm of finding the perfect 'thing'." an excellent point. the powerful effect of the combo is precisely because of the combination here - so the implication is that i should not be coveting the hair, but instead the impact of the right hair on the right face.
so wise.
ooops, too late.
but i wasn't thinking about whether or not it would work on me as i stood, scissors poised in one hand, hunk of hair grasped firmly in the other. (i didn't think much at all, clearly.) i just wanted that dutch boy bob, and i didn't want to not do it just because it might not work on me. essentially, the inside me trumped the outside me. when i think of it this way, instead of thinking that i butchered my hair on a whim, i feel gratified that i did it for myself, my truest self, and not out of consideration for how i would appear/appeal to others.

which one takes priority in dictating your style, your inside you or your outside you?


readysetfashion said...

it took longer than it should have... but i rely on my inside.

readysetfashion said...

btw, this was a good one. glad you did it for your inside you!

Alexandreena said...

I hope the inside, but sometimes it gets really messy.
I do however have a haircut that really, really fits the inside me but absolutely everyone I've ever met hates it. I've had it for 5 years now.

Iheartfashion said...

So how did the haircut look?
I love that Linda bob and think it could work on lots of non-supermodel types.

Sal said...

I remember doing the same thing to my hair. I have ridiculously thick, wavy/curly hair. I saw a girl in the video for Sting's "We'll Be Together Tonight", of all places, who had this sassy, short, stiffly-straight, layered cut that I just WANTED. I lopped off my luscious locks and looked horrendous until it grew out again. I think I was about 13.

Back then, the inside me called the shots. But I've learned that the outside me has a better idea of what looks good on my bod. And, interestingly, the inside me FEELS BETTER when the outside me is in charge. Cuz when I look great, I feel confident.

Duchesse said...

There is a reason hairdressers for editorial shoots earn thousands per day.

greying pixie said...

This is such an interesting post and I cannot describe the relief I feel to learn that I'm not alone in this world. From adolescence I have struggled continuously with the two personas and at 47 the struggle continues, the extremes are just as extreme and the hair thing is still there, just as it was in my 20s when I used to crunch my way across my fringe (bangs) with the bathroom scissors.

At times I envy women who are reliable, who have twin inside and outside, or have at least reached an equilibrium. But then at other times I quite like my extreme inside and out, the freedom and uniqueness it allows me.

-h of candid cool said...

I used to pay attention to the inside me, especially when it came to hair.
Now I’m beginning to dress the outside me, I’m embracing my naturally curly hair. And also I’m beginning to learn what colors wash me out.
But always when it comes to my appearance it still the inside me, but I’m taking the outside into consideration now too.

So I wouldn’t say one takes priority over the other. It’s more like teamwork, a joint effort.

enc said...

Like readysetfashion, it's my inside me. Now. Only in the past few years have I become confident enough to try new things, but even then, I only try them sparingly. I tend to rely on old favorites, because I feel safe. I'm hoping that the things I wear are a uniform because I like them, and they're right for me, rather than because they're just the easy way out.

landis smithers said...

um. i think both. i think my inside me makes up my outside me. and it changes daily.

but as i age, it IS more settled.

less schizo. more phrenic.

materfamilias said...

Interesting post, and, as you already know, this really resonates with what I wrote about yesterday. As Landis Smithers says above, though, I don't think one can make easy distinctions between inside and outside, since one's "inner me" represents an accumulation of internalized outside forces -- and also since that psychoanalytic phenomenon of projection, to get a bit technical, means that much of what we see as outer, observing elements are really coming from our "inner me."
What a fascinating topic -- suggesting that, yet again, as Linda Grant says over at The Thoughtful Dresser, you can't get depths without surfaces!