Unattached

so one reason my recent attempt to buy jewelry failed, it occurred to me, was that the piece lacked any personal significance to me. it wasn't from someone special (no, in this case, i don't count) and it wasn't to mark something special (an accomplishment of some sort). for me, if it's serious jewelry (costing more than $80 or $100), it has to be a token of some sort, in addition to being aesthetically pleasing of course.

this evening i had time to waste and went to the drugstore. i found the cutest lip balm there. the design on the product itself is too perfect (a no-nonsense tube construction, writing in grey, writing in pink, words in french, made in france, and a great little graphic detail of a pink spiral seemingly produced free-hand. it is apothecary-meets-cute-cute). and it was half-off. an easy split-second decision that i will not regret.

i labor over clothing purchases occasionally, if the price tag merits it, but i am able to fall for an item of clothing as quickly as i did that lip balm. what i do not ever need is any emotional justification. the love/appreciation/need for the clothes is always enough.

when shopping, do you ever need or have an emotional justification/attachment? is it a help or a hindrance?

7 comments:

greying pixie said...

I had not realised until recently when a colleague pointed it out to me, that I have built up a collection of significant rings over the years, each with a story attached. Now I realise that all my jewellery has emotion or a personal story attached in some way.

With my clothes I have always been aware of the emotion attached. I resent having to spend my money on basics which are so easily replaceable. Sometimes the emotion is to do with reminding me of a loved one, for example I sometimes buy an item of clothing that I know my elegant Roman aunt would wear, to remind me of her and to allow me a soupcon of her elegance. That is my interpretation of investment dressing and definitely clears me of any financial guilt.

enc said...

I do have emotional attachments. This is what makes it difficult to walk away if the price tag is "high," or if some item would only really fit into my "Fantasy Life." I've found that my emotions can sometimes get in the way of practicality. I had an emotional reaction to the bag I've been carrying for two years, and I'm still carrying it. That makes it a "Real Life" item. But I had an emotional reaction to the painful-looking tortoiseshell patent shoes yesterday, and those shoes belong only in my "Fantasy Life."

Emotions and emotional reactions have also been known to stop me getting rid of things that no longer work, or are broken down.

editor said...

greying pixie- i have never experienced that connection. i'm not missing it though, mind you. as enc points out, then the clothing becomes part of an album and one would be disinclined to toss a page. my attraction/attachment to my clothing is based entirely on my own relationship with them: do they appeal, independently, to me, and do i feel good in them. it's all about me.

enc - that is not to say that i don't have an emotional reaction to the stuff that i have. i have to "click" with them in order to buy them, and i would guess that emotion (it sure isn't logic) is at work there.

greying pixie said...

Yes, rereading what I posted earlier, I think enc describes it well - reality and fantasy life. The trouble is I have so many fantasy lives that things can get quite complicated. Perhaps 'multiple personalities' would be a better description in my case!

Sometimes I put on an outfit in the morning feeling great and by the end of the day I can't wait to get it off, vowing never to wear it again! Then a few days later I'm missing it again!

But I do believe the relationship we have with our clothes is incredibly complex - have you read Eileen Green's 'Through the Wardrobe'? - and not at all easy to put into words.

Duchesse said...

in my brief (and avid) acquaintance with your blog, I sense you be interested in quality and beauty in clothes. So would you be willing to consider that "above $80 or $100" is not 'serious jewelery'? For me 'serious jewelery' uses precious metals' and, if stones, usually semi-precious.
Recently bought a magical necklace made of aluminum by a French jeweler- so the rule does not always apply. Maybe you were not captivated because the piece was just okay, not special.

editor said...

duchesse - interesting point. you are very right, beauty and quality are totally essential characteristics of clothing that will appeal to me. and yes, the same could be said of the jewelry that i am drawn to. the ring (gold) was very "me," however rings, themselves, are not very me. if i had a lot of extra money, then i would have happily kept the ring, but this is not the case, and i started to feel a bit claustrophobic when i got home, realizing that i just spent clothing money - that is, because i bought the ring, i could not spend $x on clothing. it wasn't a good feeling, what can i say. :)

laia. said...

it is only a hindrance if you end up losing them. a couple of years ago i bought the most beautiful chanel earrings. they were double c's with a dangling eiffel tower. to me, they represented the future, the unknown, everything i wanted to do with my life. it was the first time that i spent so much money on any sort of accessory and I wore them everyday until they became my signature. then last year they disappeared from my life.

im still sort of not over it.