i am not a formal person. i don't feel good "dressing up" for something. i went to a wedding last week. black-tie recommended. i had a new dress for the occasion, or rather, i used the occasion for (the excuse to buy) a new dress. since the occasion was the justification for the dress, i respectfully waited for the official day to wear it, knowing that after that use, i would appropriate it as an everyday item. i waited months.
because this dress that i was (figuratively) itching to wear casually with my men's shoes, or my converse, or my perfect black flats, was foreign to me when i finally put it on for the formal evening. instead of wearing a favorite old dress, i was wearing a formal one. i hate that. by the end of the evening, i had figured out how i'd rather have worn it (different shoes, and sideways - the dress, not the shoes), but it wasn't ideal to use the wedding as a testing ground. i had been worried that wearing the dress beforehand would ruin the specialness of the dress, but by waiting, i ruined what was supposed to be the specialness of the occasion (just for me - i'm pretty sure the bride had a great time). i don't know why i thought i needed the dress to be pristine for the wedding - though i guess that attitude was what led me to purchase a new dress in the first place.
lots of editorials out there about transitioning items from day to night, and i always ignore them. i think in my case, it was a matter of making a mental adjustment rather than a sartorial one.
do you view your pieces in narrowly-defined categories (designated for certain occasions), or does anything go (anywhere, anytime)?
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